tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post3046864991553995871..comments2023-10-12T21:57:36.081+09:00Comments on Welcome: Her name was 真理子- MarikoArisa Chowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11222671374832342193noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-78917939902871314972017-08-22T15:16:13.208+09:002017-08-22T15:16:13.208+09:00Hugs babe.
She is smiling down at you, every singl...Hugs babe.<br />She is smiling down at you, every single moment and looking after you from heaven.<br />I love you babe.<br />Rawlins GLAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03247818962415397173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-14627036357985328872017-07-05T10:28:01.677+09:002017-07-05T10:28:01.677+09:00Dear Arisa,
I'm actually a silent follower of...Dear Arisa,<br /><br />I'm actually a silent follower of your instagram. I came here as I was shocked to find the saddening news of Mariko on your instagram post. Your post touched my heart; it is full of love and sincerity. I can see that Mariko is such a lucky baby to have a strong, caring, beautiful, and independent mother such as yourself. Please do not give up on life. I'm sure Mariko would love to see you continue what you're doing and to travel more. My deepest condolences go out to you and Mariko. Have faith and be strong :')Nisa Greennnpandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08775545451501957643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-27054243249934659992017-05-20T01:22:53.417+09:002017-05-20T01:22:53.417+09:00Dear Arisa...just found your instagram and I am re...Dear Arisa...just found your instagram and I am really shocked reading your story...I am a mother and I can't imagine the level of pain you had suffered losing Mariko...I can't express myself very good in English (I am from Spain) but you made cry so much...the story of you and Mariko is so sad because you couldn't be together....how unfair is everything for you both...after taking the hard desition of being a single mommy...You are so strong...I just wish you this life brings you the strenght to keep fighting for your little girl...I'm sure Mariko wants you alive...you are the most precious being for her...she is there...her little soul is there with you...there is no way we dissapear like that. Be strong my dear...and I am so sorry...Mariko lived a short time, bur she came to this world thank to you...you gave her life...she was happy and loved. You did the your best...you were the best mother. Many hugs from Spain ❤️Nanamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06904439642813135622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-61658136463962764282017-03-05T12:50:34.485+09:002017-03-05T12:50:34.485+09:00hugs Arisa... you are a strong woman to face all o...hugs Arisa... you are a strong woman to face all of this... and I pray that life gets better eventually one day... as it did for me..Miera Nadhirahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13824838341314289887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-38876240114919494232017-02-19T18:46:21.274+09:002017-02-19T18:46:21.274+09:00Dear Arisa,
Do stay strong! Lil parasite will alw...Dear Arisa,<br /><br />Do stay strong! Lil parasite will always be with you and love you more than ever (she is super grateful to have a mama like you).. You have to learn to be strong ���� and cheerful like what lil parasite does with her sweet smile. ����<br /><br />Lots of ❤️<br />StephAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09339312469827022729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-39878908236382797962017-02-16T18:36:41.151+09:002017-02-16T18:36:41.151+09:00I just wanna give you a hug right now. Stay strong...I just wanna give you a hug right now. Stay strong. Malaismshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10318101982978435503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-29528966018880073322017-02-16T10:56:29.739+09:002017-02-16T10:56:29.739+09:00Dear Arisa,
Came to your post from the BF group.....Dear Arisa,<br /><br />Came to your post from the BF group.. I'm a mother to two now and my younger boy is few days younger than your Mariko..<br />I know how bad it aches your heart n soul that your lil Angel is not with u physically anymore. My first pregnancy didn't go well, baby stopped her heart beat on 23rd weeks, I have to 'delivered' her in the hospital anyhow as she is kinda big by the time already, it's heart breaking to go through that process cos everyone else Is there to deliver a new life but mine is one of the baby that never get a chance to grow up.. The chances to get a still birth is very little too and I also couldn't stopped asking Why it have to be my girl...<br />I grief for the longest time, I thought of ended my life too and I also thought I'll never healed.. It's ok to be sad now Arisa, but rmb there'll be one day that u will be all ok again! By then you will know Mariko never leave u and she stayed in your heart forever!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />LaurenAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16357971182257792831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-29829702772655666952017-02-13T20:34:43.328+09:002017-02-13T20:34:43.328+09:00Arisa,
OMG!!! Being a new-ish parent myself I can...Arisa,<br /><br />OMG!!! Being a new-ish parent myself I can feel you griefs and can't imagine how hard it is for you to go through.<br /><br />All I could say is, please stay strong and stay safe and we are sure that good things will happen to good people.<br /><br />Take care.<br /><br />CH.DeZemBerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13537900783258923150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-85100525843968793002017-02-13T09:39:23.477+09:002017-02-13T09:39:23.477+09:00Arisa, I guess everyone's heart broken when he...Arisa, I guess everyone's heart broken when hearing your loss. I remember that day I spoke with you about your pregnancy and those tips you shared with me. I understand your pain and your thought of ending your life because of the loss. But, like others said, you gotta live for both you and Mariko. I am sure she doesn't want her mother to end life because she left you. Remember you promised to bring her back on her 1st birthday? She wants her mama to keep the promise ya. Stay as strong as you can, all of us are with you. Any help, we are here. Take care my dear. Sin Yeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02881328717783806930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-17524575662726400102017-02-13T08:41:40.704+09:002017-02-13T08:41:40.704+09:00Dear Arisa,
I am a random reader of your story an...Dear Arisa,<br /><br />I am a random reader of your story and a mother as well. Im so so to hear about your devastating loss. As a mother, it aches my heart to read your experience. May Little Mariko rest in peace and no matter how hard it is...don't put the blame on yourself. Be kind to yourself to go on. Hugs ��Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01220424095176339064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-29040401999594077502017-02-13T01:43:16.626+09:002017-02-13T01:43:16.626+09:00Dear Arisa... I'm so sorry to hear about your ...Dear Arisa... I'm so sorry to hear about your loss... it's hard for me to read through because it's really heartbreaking... Hugs to you! 😢Sebrinah Yeohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861460077262637136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-37989678827141196932017-02-13T00:45:31.304+09:002017-02-13T00:45:31.304+09:00That grief to death form losing a child is true to...That grief to death form losing a child is true to every mum whether the child is a fetus, baby or a grown up. And that loss will stay with the mum for the rest of her life. But one story gave me tremendous consolation and encouragement when I was going through a miscarriage recently. I hope it can help in certain you in certain way too: <br /><br />The Dark Candle<br />A man had a little daughter – an only and much beloved child. He lived for her ~ she was his life. So when she became ill and her illness resisted the efforts of the best obtainable physicians, he became like a man possessed, moving heaven and earth to bring about her restoration to health. <br /><br />His best efforts proved unavailing and the child died. The father was totally irreconcilable. He became a bitter recluse, shutting himself away from his many friends and refusing every activity that might restore his poise and bring him back to his normal self. But one night he had a dream. He was in Heaven, and was witnessing a grand pageant of all the little child angels. They were marching in an apparently endless line past the Great White Throne. Every white-robed angelic tot carried a candle. He noticed that one child’s candle was not lighted. Then he saw that the child with the dark candle was his own little girl. Rushing to her, while the pageant faltered, he seized her in his arms, caressed her tenderly, and then asked: “How is it, darling that your candle alone is unlighted? His sweet daughter lovingly replied, “Father, they often relight it, but your tears always put it out.” <br /><br />Just then he awoke from his dream. The lesson was crystal clear, and its effects were immediate. From that hour on he was not a recluse, but mingled freely and cheerfully with his former friends and associates. No longer would his little darling’s candle be extinguished by his useless tears.<br /><br />Written by Strickland Gililan Fanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13205218918115795722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-39653885122201928532017-02-12T22:35:01.165+09:002017-02-12T22:35:01.165+09:00Dear Arisa,
I am so sorry for your loss. Words ca...Dear Arisa,<br /><br />I am so sorry for your loss. Words can't express how pained i am to hear that you lost your little angel so soon and when you are so motivated as a mother to give the best you could. Please do know that you and Mariko will be in our prayers and we will be supporting you through your journey of recovery.<br /><br />Calishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05018961634755311186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-33755008985330622132017-02-12T05:06:07.323+09:002017-02-12T05:06:07.323+09:00Hi Arisa,
Mariko is such a beautiful baby. Please...Hi Arisa,<br /><br />Mariko is such a beautiful baby. Please accept a hug from another person who lost our baby. Chloe would be 5 years old now if she didn't leave us.<br /><br />The first thing you need to do is stop blaming yourself. The emotional roller coaster will be hard, seek help if you need. We were lucky that we had support group here for parents who lost their baby. The grieving process will be long and everyone grieves differently.<br /><br />Remember that you're not alone. There are many stillborn baby and baby that suffered SIDS. It's taboo so not many people talk about the topic. I'm happy to talk if you need someone to talk to.<br /><br />You may want to find a Jizo for Mariko.<br />http://jizoandchibi.com/miscarriagethe-water-child-and-jizo/<br />https://www.amazon.com/Jizo-Bodhisattva-Guardian-Children-Travelers/dp/1590300807<br /><br />It was hard for us but I assure you it'll be better. Hope that one day you'll find peace and not cry when you think of Mariko.<br /><br />Love,<br />Damien<br /><br /><br />You never said you're leaving<br />You never said goodbye<br />You were gone before I knew it,<br />And no one knew why.<br />A million times I needed you,<br />A million times I cried.<br />If love alone could have saved you,<br />You never would have died.<br />In life I loved you dearly<br />In death I love you still<br />In my heart you hold a place,<br />That nobody could ever fill.<br />It broke my heart to lose you,<br />But you didn't go alone<br />For part of me went with you,<br />The day angels called you home.<br />For things on earth didn't matter, <br />but now I feel so alone,<br />My heart will always be broken, <br />my life will never be whole.<br />We might be parted for awhile, <br />our hearts will always be together<br />for one day soon we will hold hands again forever.<br />- Parents of Angels -Dynamo Damohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01217150661139802291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-8626697746530080262017-02-12T03:31:19.269+09:002017-02-12T03:31:19.269+09:00The moment you chose to gave life to this baby, yo...The moment you chose to gave life to this baby, you are a strong and loving mom. Thank you for choosing life over death. Thank you for everything you did for baby til her very last breathe. In life there will be many situation where we will have lots of question marks and it seems that no one can give us an answer. There are times where i am total lost and have no idea who can help me. One friend told me this:" I can't help you but I know that 1 person can and He is God." For how much I was saved by Him i would love you to be saved too, physically and spiritually. In this very critical moment, please remember this: God does not bring you this far to abandon you. He is the only person that will never forsake you. <br />"Come to me, all of you who are weary and heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. " Matthew 11:28<br />Learning to cast your sorrow, burden, hatred, unforgiveness etc to God and let him save you. <br />Baby has gone back to heavenly father and you need to forgive yourself and carry on your life. Why I say so? Because I am a single mother too. I can understand the feeling of guilt for whatever that we thought we could have done better for our baby. Do not blame yourself and stay strong. Allow yourself a bit of time to grief. Whenever you feel that being attacked spiritually (emotion of sadness, unforgiveness, worthless etc etc) , seek refuge in God. <br />I will pray for you and your baby Mariko, may shalom peace be with you. <br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05260755057705735375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-47082514430820173922017-02-12T00:51:40.113+09:002017-02-12T00:51:40.113+09:00Dear Arisa, I know you would be very exhausted by ...Dear Arisa, I know you would be very exhausted by now so I won't say much.<br /><br />Just want you to know that, Mariko was a blessing when she was around and even when she is not around, she will always be blessing you and watching you from above like how she directed assistance to you to settle all issues to come home with you quickly.<br /><br />Always strive to be positive for Mariko and know she will always be there rooting for you.<br /><br />Live the life Mariko never get to live and always share it with her :)<br /><br />Always remember that we are all around and ready to lend you a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen to anything at all.<br /><br />Please take time to slowly settle down and most importantly take care of yourself.<br /><br />Lots of love n hugs!Tenshi Chnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07516884140304362472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-13696704525042578292017-02-11T17:13:49.229+09:002017-02-11T17:13:49.229+09:00Take good care ArisaTake good care ArisaB'https://www.blogger.com/profile/08457144702524560434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-31805483141688667592017-02-11T15:42:58.881+09:002017-02-11T15:42:58.881+09:00Dear Arisa, my deepest condolences to u. So sorry ...Dear Arisa, my deepest condolences to u. So sorry to know about your loss. Mariko was a lucky bb to hv you as her mom. You are a strong mom and I always follow your status sijce Mariko was borned. it is indeed very hurtful and heart breaking when knows Mariko was left us so sudden. Hope to catch up with you soon after u hv settle down. Yours Sincerely, Tina Fong.Tina Fonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11146227857718381750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-79878862314960043622017-02-11T15:42:56.589+09:002017-02-11T15:42:56.589+09:00Dear Arisa,
This is such a heartbreaking post. I ...Dear Arisa,<br /><br />This is such a heartbreaking post. I was shocked when I saw the post at FB and did not believe my eyes. Each lines are just so sour to the heart. I thought some day I will get to meet you and lil mariko in person. You are very strong and I believed lil mariko is blessed to have you as a mommy. So sorry that it happened. Stay strong. Will email you in a bit Bee Lee https://www.blogger.com/profile/13502372274336086528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-23356032152098492762017-02-11T11:40:02.182+09:002017-02-11T11:40:02.182+09:00Dear Arisa,
It was heartbreaking to read this arti...Dear Arisa,<br />It was heartbreaking to read this article until the end. My deepest condolence. It is very difficult to fathom such cruel reality. There is no way I can imagine how hard to live everyday with this burden and the only honest thing I can hope is that you will stay strong. Life surely won't be the same anymore, but she will always be in our memories. That picture of you and her was beautiful and burned to my memory as part of our joined effort to keep her existence forever. hermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15014284648991504098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-55132169247922909842017-02-11T11:26:31.963+09:002017-02-11T11:26:31.963+09:00Stay strong Arisa. I was so shocked and heartbroke...Stay strong Arisa. I was so shocked and heartbroken when I saw your post on this on Facebook. Mariko would want you to keep on living.<br /><br />Her body might be gone from this Earth, but Mariko will continue to be with you as your angel, watching you from the heavens. She will continue to be there for you forever. Priscillahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10134075183295794999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-62015792930897305022017-02-11T08:02:13.753+09:002017-02-11T08:02:13.753+09:00Hi Arisa,
I'm not sure where to start as I us...Hi Arisa,<br /><br />I'm not sure where to start as I usually don't leave comments in people's blog despite being a blogger myself, but I simply couldn't ignore this post in particular. I have been following your pregnancy and your journey silently and I was really looking forward to see Mariko grow up.<br /><br />Her passing shocks me. Too sudden. Too soon and I cannot imagine how you are feeling right now. I miscarried back in 2013 and like you, I resent the fact that I wasn't given a chance to hold my baby and have proper goodbyes. It still traumatize me whenever I think back of the day I saw the scan of my dead baby. I secretly named her Aria. Nobody else acknowledged her existence, but to me, she was the most beautiful gift that I did not deserve to have. I think I was not good enough a mother to have her.<br /><br />The only thing that stops me from ending my life was my son. He still needs me and I thought perhaps, just perhaps, I will have a chance to be her mother all over again...one day...one way or another. Not sure if I make sense right now but thank you so much for not taking your life and reminding us all to cherish our little ones. I need such reminder. Having a child with autism is tough and I tend to cuss and complain about my son and take him for granted. Thank you for the reminder. <br /><br />I'm really sorry you had to go through all these. Mariko must be in heaven somewhere now. Just like my Aria, the child who has never been born. 4 years has gone by and I'm still grieving for her so I know you will mourn and grieve for a very long time. We simply don't forget our children just because their physical body is gone. They live on in our hearts for as long as we live. So Arisa, mourn for as long as you need but don't forget to live. She is still living, but through you. Live bravely, even while mourning. Live on, for her sake and try to be happy again one day. I will keep you and Mariko both in my prayers.<br /><br />*Hugs*<br /><br />Ellie Toh<br /><br />Ps: You are a great mama. Don't ever blame yourself for anything. None of this is your fault. And again, thank you for sharing Mariko with us. That child of yours, definitely taught everyone plenty of lessons.She is indeed the child of truth.<br /><br />elliecleffairyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08000802166511812835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-66560894815665464032017-02-11T06:38:54.465+09:002017-02-11T06:38:54.465+09:00I'm so sad. I didnt get the chance to meet her...I'm so sad. I didnt get the chance to meet her. Please stay strong Arisa. Misz-ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01708063163987022162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-80342732349058632072017-02-11T04:50:30.288+09:002017-02-11T04:50:30.288+09:00My deepest condolences. Stay strong... My deepest condolences. Stay strong... Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12090539818939718619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1449085508547267827.post-28179213737748410082017-02-11T02:53:08.710+09:002017-02-11T02:53:08.710+09:00She is not fat away, will always stays in your hea...She is not fat away, will always stays in your heart. My deepest condolences Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07103730651908082198noreply@blogger.com